Self-Reflection

Listening when someone believes you have wronged them

In life, you will take psychological punches. An example of this is when someone believes you have wronged them in some way. How you train yourself to understand the issue is key and whilst it may or may not seem like you have wronged, the other person was hurt and wants you to understand their truth. What is important is how you listen and allow them the space and time to communicate these feelings to you. You have to learn to withstand someone else’s truth which can feel like “the punch”. When you can do this, two less people go out into the world and are less likely to do more damage to themselves and others.

So how can you do this? The most important part about listening, is to let the other person finish their story. Once they do, it is still not your turn to tell them yours. Rather choose to show that you understand, by repeating what they’ve just told you and validate the parts that are true for you.

Love is spelt LUV (Listen, understand and validate the parts you agree with).

Seek first to understand and then to be understood.